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The Ill Effects of Smoking

Ask The Experts by Alfonso O'Neill, MD

Q: "I see other kids in my high school class smoking, and I have been to their homes, and I have seen their parents smoking, and they all look very healthy to me. How bad can cigarette smoking be?"

A: Although there are no obvious outward effects when you see your friends and their parents smoking cigarettes, you should pay closer attention to the subtle signs, which often include cough, either for short or long periods of time. The longer you smoke, the more short of breath you become. Some of the other early signs of smoking include: chronic sinus conditions, watery nose, runny eyes, and other allergic-like symptoms. You will also notice that the smokers have a very deep, almost hoarse voice. These are all irritant effects of cigarette smoke that might be seen in very early smokers. So, just because you do not hear that your friends and/or their parents have developed lung cancer or emphysema, these very subtle irritant effects of cigarette smoke can be seen if you pay closer attention.

Q: "I smoke socially and so I do not think that smoking is causing me any harm."

A: Usually, even if you are smoking socially, you are smoking in an area where there are other smokers. Smoke then begets more smoke, so not only do you get the ill effects of your own inhalation, but you are also inhaling the smoke of other smokers around you and you are inhaling unfiltered smoke, which after several hours of "enjoyment", can cause a tremendous amount of harm, not only immediately, but over the long term. So, if one were to smoke every weekend, once or twice a night, the days begin to add up very quickly, and so this type of exposure can certainly lead to chronic smoking-related diseases, such as chronic bronchitis and emphysema. There is good evidence that children that grow up in homes where there are smokers have a much higher incidence of asthma and chronic bronchitis later in life.

Q: "I can quit smoking anytime I want and that time is just not now, so why do I need to quit now?"

A: Nicotine has been well documented to be a more highly addictive substance than cocaine. Once you develop a nicotine addiction, it is extremely difficult to quit. Even with the best programs and best ancillary help, the 1-year smoking cessation rate is only about 1 out of 6 people. Once you become addicted to nicotine, it is extremely difficult to quit, so the best answer to that problem is just not to start smoking.

Q: Why can't I just wait for symptoms to begin and then stop smoking, and hope that everything will be alright?"

A: It can take years for the ill effects of cigarette smoke to finally cause symptoms. The problem with waiting is that once the symptoms begin, they are invariably irreversible. If you were to smoke long enough to develop emphysema, which is a destruction of lung tissue, there is no return; the lung will not regenerate. Once you have lost that lung function, it will not return. In fact, the inflammatory process will continue, and the lung function can continue to deteriorate at a rapid rate, such that even if you quit smoking cigarettes, your symptoms will worsen. Again, the best answer to that problem is to just never start smoking.

Q: "I have seen a lot of old people smoking cigarettes, and except for a little bit of cough and shortness of breath, they look fine to me."

A: It is true that not everyone that smokes, even for prolonged periods of time, develops cancer, emphysema, chronic bronchitis, or other illnesses. Unfortunately, there are so many American smokers, so that even when that small percentage develops disease, the cost to society is dramatic: in the billions of dollars per year. The other problem is that genetics play a large role in whether you develop these diseases or not. When you start smoking in your teens, you just don't know. There is no way to tell whether you have the genetics that will be "good" or "bad" regarding cigarette smoke. So again, the best solution is simply to just never start smoking cigarettes. That way you never have to face the dilemma of lung cancer, or other kinds of cancer such as bladder and bowel cancer, the ill effects of heart disease, and/or the ill effects of emphysema or chronic bronchitis - which are all related to cigarette smoking.

Alfonso O'Neill, MD is board certified in Pulmonary Medicine and board eligible in Critical Care Medicine. He has been in private practice for over 20 years and is the senior physician in the practice of O'Neill, Greenberger, Wu & Dunn, PLLC, with offices in St. Clair Shores, Huntington Woods and Troy. Dr. O'Neill may be reached at 586.774.0399.

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Anxiety in These Difficult Times

By Marla K. Ruhana, LMSW

Q. Lately, I’ve been feeling especially anxious for no good reason. I am grateful for my health, family, and current employment. Why is it I feel more anxious than I’ve ever felt in my life?


A. What you are feeling in these difficult economic times seems to be becoming the new norm. Sad but true, I’ve not seen this many struggle with generalized anxiety since 9/11. Quite honestly, at least here in the Greater Detroit Area, the anxiety appears to be worse than 9/11. I attribute this heightened sense of anxiety specific to this geographic area as a direct result of auto industry and job loss. Even if it is not directly impacting your family, I’m certain we all know someone who has lost their job, another whose spouse has relocated to another state to obtain employment and provide for their family.


Today, we are bombarded by the media, both local and national, and this negativity lurks in our unconscious. I recently drove back to Michigan from South Carolina and noticed the difference in billboards as I traveled north. It was quite a contrast, all upbeat, positive and in Michigan, from I 275 to I 94, every billboard aside from one for Cedar Point, McDonald’s, and MegaMillions, all were 1-800-bankruptcy, need help with your prescription costs?, and debt solutions. Whether we like it or not, we are all affected.

We see more evidence as teachers are being laid off due to school closings as many families relocate out of state. We can drive through the community and see the high number of homes for sale. We notice that our favorite restaurant is fairly empty when we dine out on weekends.

Yet we second guess ourselves as we cannot understand why we are feeling so anxious. These economic hardships have a detrimental impact on all of us. For many, fear often creeps into our unconscious as we wonder will we be next.

In addition to psychotherapy, exercise, healthy diet and sleep are all essential in maintaining balance and well-being. Yoga, meditation, journaling and surrounding yourself with optimistic, supportive relatives and friends will alleviate anxiety. Be proactive, view these difficult economic times as an opportunity to get back to basics, invite friends, family, or neighbors for a barbeque as opposed to dining out. View this crisis as a way to break free from isolation and establish a new sense of community and social network.


Q. So how does a person know when to seek out a mental health practitioner for their anxiety?

A.
If we are already prone to anxiety and depression, then our thoughts tend to be more negative and in this case the fear and projected negative outcome can often be far greater. It is imperative that we attempt to know ourselves and our own tendencies. Listen to your support system. Have they expressed concerns regarding changes in your mood state? If so, psychotherapy can be helpful to assist in becoming more self aware and offering cognitive techniques to help to change your thoughts. Therapy can also be beneficial if your support system is limited.


A professional can also be helpful if you have lost your job to assist in reinventing yourself. It is extremely helpful as it is an objective outside viewpoint from those who know you well and may have their own biases regarding your ideas for a new career path.

Q. What if I need more help? Is medication and option for anxiety?

A. Medication is not the answer for everyone. Medication however can be extremely beneficial for those suffering from anxiety disorders. As psychotherapists cannot prescribe medication, I recommend contacting your primary care physician or seeking out psychiatric care. Ask your physician about medication for anxiety as some have an addictive quality.


Marla Ruhana, LMSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist in private practice. For more information contact her at 586-447-2162 or visit www.marlaruhana.com.

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Social Isolation in Our Adult Lives

By Marla Ruhana, LMSW

Q. I am a 44 year old single mom, new to this area. I am finding it difficult to meet new friends and establish connections within the community. In the rush, rush of hectic busy days, I find it difficult to even connect with my kids' friends and their parents to develop new relationships. I have always been an extrovert and never imagined this would happen I would feel so isolated. Is this normal?


A. Social isolation is more common than you think. Living in a world consumed with technology, we all face the challenge of being more isolated. Many work from home with less chance of establishing and maintaining friends in the workplace. Most of us are rushing from one place to another and do not make much time for ourselves to simply visit with our neighbor. Most do not speak of this issue, but loneliness is apparent on many levels.

I work with many who recently return home after being away at college. They all say similar things, " I lost touch with friends in this area when I went away to school and now I'm finding it difficult to reconnect". I also hear:
"my children are grown but my friends have little ones and we have lost touch as result of different activities in our lives", or: "all of my friends are married and I no longer receive invitations to events with them". Many across the life span are experiencing the same predicament.

Q. What can we do? Do you have suggestions to meet like-minded people?

A. We must be proactive and get creative in order to meet new people. I suggest taking golf lessons or joining a league, join a local boating/yacht club, gardening clubs, local women's organizations, play tennis, or another organized sport. Take cooking classes, attend functions within the community and Greater Detroit Area. Be visible. We won't make new friends at home. For those returning from college, the Detroit Social Club is always an option. Explore other clubs and functions on the internet.

Q. So many of these suggestions are helpful yet cost money. Are there other ways to meet people?

A. Yes, I recommend going to your local park, taking a walk, visiting local coffee shops and bookstores. Many opt to volunteer at the local hospitals and nursing homes. It is an opportunity to help others and meet new people at the same time.

Attend free events hosted by the community like Music on the Plaza for a free concert. I would shop estate and garage sales as they are fun, offer good finds and a relaxed atmosphere to connect with your neighbor.


Marla K. Ruhana, LMSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist.
For more information contact her at www.marlaruhana.com or 586-447-2162.

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Motivating Teens for Summer Jobs

By David M. Benson, MSW, LMSW, ACSW

Q: Now that school is over, how can I motivate my teenager to seek employment, instead of sitting around the house playing video games?

A: This is a question I hear often from the parents of my adolescent clients. First, teens need to identify short and long-term goals, then tie their goals to methods of accomplishing them - like getting a summer job. It is beneficial for the parent(s) to sit with the teenager while he/she writes their list of goals and interests. If your teen has specific, clear and realistic goals, he/she will have a sense of control and purpose for employment. This process of defining may assist your teenager to identify not only areas of interest, but also items the teen may want to purchase for themselves. Teenagers all think about driving and wanting a car, planning for trips or buying special clothes that are not always in the family budget. By earning their own money, a job teaches them responsibility and helps to make their goals more realistic and attainable.

The parental role in this process is one of a "coach" and motivator. If your coaching is effective, the teenager will make more independent, responsible decisions. As parents, it is often easier for us to simply repeat to our teens, "you need to get a job." However, if a parent is able to be the coach or motivator, the results are almost always more favorable. The key to this process is to allow the teen to feel some control and motivation to want to be employed.

Be aware that the thought of employment often scares teenagers. Some do not know their talents, or believe enough in themselves to be employed. Being employed for the first time is a very anxious moment for teenagers. This is one of the main reasons why teenagers will not seek employment. The parent can assist by helping the teen identify their strengths and weaknesses, as well as making suggestions for employment opportunities that promote success for your teen.

The following list includes the most popular employment opportunities for teens:

  • Food Services
  • Retail Stores
  • Yard Maintenance
  • Tutoring
  • Car Washing
  • Parks and Recreation Departments
  • Pet Services
  • Babysitting/Care Giving
  • Library
It is very important for the parent (coach) to praise and acknowledge their teen's efforts in seeking employment. Your teen may not find the "perfect" job at first, but accepting setbacks and seeking an alternative job will help them to readjust priorities and learn how to compromise.

David M. Benson, MSW, LMSW, ACSW is a licensed clinical therapist with over 15 years of experience and has been in private practice for 5 years in Grosse Pointe Farms. He works part-time at Henry Ford Cottage Hospital's Psychiatric Unit and is a member of The Family Center's Association of Professionals. Contact him at EastShore Counseling Services (313) 447-5779, email Info@DavidBensonTherapy.com or visit www.DavidBensonTherapy.com for more details.

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Have a Safe Summer: How to Avoid Recreational Water Illness

By Glen Clark, MD, chief, Emergency Services, Beaumont Hospital, Grosse Pointe

Q: I overhead someone talking about recreational water illnesses. I've never heard this term used before. What is it and what should I know about it?

A: The term recreational water illness (RWIs) refers to the transmission of germs spread by swallowing, breathing or having contact with contaminated water. RWIs can be present in pools, spas, lakes, rivers and oceans. RWIs can cause a wide variety of symptoms, including gastrointestinal, skin, ear, respiratory, eye, neurologic and wound infections.

Feces is the most common culprit in the spread of RWIs. Children who are not potty trained should wear approved swim diapers at all times. Individuals with diarrhea should refrain from swimming until symptoms are non-existent.

Before jumping into your favorite swimming hole, consider the condition of the water and the surroundings. In addition to asking the attendant about pool policies and cleaning schedules, there are a few things you can do. The sides of the pool should not be sticky or slippery.

The water should be clear and free from odor. If there is a strong chemical smell, it indicates there are maintenance deficiencies. A well-chlorinated pool has no order. Chlorine and pH levels should be checked twice a day. Ask what the health inspector's grade was for the pool at the last inspection.

Natural bodies of water can be contaminated by animal waste, sewage spills and runoff from rainfalls. Pay special attention to posted "no swimming" signs.

To help protect against RWIs, practice healthy swimming behaviors. Do not swim if you have diarrhea; shower with soap before and after swimming; wash your hands after using the bathroom while swimming; and most importantly, do not swallow any pool water or get pool water in your mouth.

If you have a backyard swimming pool, check chlorine and pH levels of the water often. Allow only approved swim diapers and do not allow the family pet in the pool.

Swimming is an all-time favorite summer pastime. Keep it safe by being a smart swimmer.

For more information contact: Glen Clark, MD, chief, Emergency Services, Beaumont Hospital, Grosse Pointe at 313-417-6940.

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